• Tamicka Monson

From Victim to Victor

Back in the Fall of 2019, my therapist asked me if I saw myself as a victim or not. After a few seconds, I responded, “No.” But then I thought about it. And the truth is, I did see myself as a victim. I saw myself in light of everything that happened to me, and I saw myself broken. I took the victim mentality with me everywhere I went. It sat with me in classes. It followed me around at work. It took over my friendships. It infiltrated my relationships with my family. In reflecting on her question, I realized I didn’t want to be seen as a victim anymore. I didn’t want people to pity me and say, “Aww” every time I shared a story. I wanted to be seen as a whole person who has been through a lot but is overcoming by the blood of the lamb and the word of her testimony. I am still learning to be a victor rather than a victim, and a thriver rather than a survivor.




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