Time To Mourn
Updated: May 21, 2020
Mourning. Something we don't like to talk about too often. Ironically, the Bible mentions mourning over a hundred times. Every person mourns. Even Jesus mourned the loss of Lazarus (John 11:35). It is strange that even though the Creator of the universe mourns, we as humans still find it uncomfortable to do so. We live in a generation where the people who post exciting things about themselves on social media get tons of likes, while the people who pour out their mourning on social media get un-followed or even deleted as friends. What message are we sending to those who are struggling? Is it the message that you must pretend to do well or we cannot be friends? It is no wonder that many people live in a facade on social media and even in real life, out of fear that showing the "real" them will leave them rejected.
Ecclesiastes 7:2 states, "It is better to go to a house of mourning than to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should take this to heart." I don't believe the author Solomon was being pessimistic; I believe he was encouraging us to take time to mourn.
In our lives, we all must realize that the world will one day pass away. We all must also realize that even in our times of great rejoicing, others are suffering. Should we not enjoy our lives or not be as thankful? No. Should we rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn (Romans 12:15)? Yes. Why? Because to identify where someone is helps us to have empathy. I reckon it is easier to rejoice with others than to mourn with others. For no one likes a "Debbie Downer."
Mourning is not complaining. It is not wallowing in self-pity either. Mourning is defined by dictionary.com as “expressing sorrow or grief.” For us as believers, that means recognizing that we live in a world of brokenness and people are perishing without the knowledge of him. It is grieving over the many minorities who face discrimination daily. Or the deaths of babies. Or victims of sex trafficking. Or, or, or...The list goes on.
I believe you can both rejoice and be completely grateful for where you are in your walk with God and take time to mourn. God rejoices with you in your time of rejoicing, but also in your time of despair. Do the same by yourself. Do the same with others. As you do so, you will not only grow in empathy; you will develop a deeper sense of how great God's grace truly is.